Why Don’t We Do the Helpful Thing?

Oh loves I am reading Outlive by Dr. Peter Attia. I am thinking about how to age well and his view flows with the largeer views out there, exercise, nutrition, sleep and our emotional wellness. It strikes me that often the reason we do not do the first three is due to the last! Why does our brain tell us things that prevent us from being well? “It will be too hard.” “People will judge me.” “I don’t have time.” “I am too old (overweight, scared, tired, etc.) for that.” “If I try I will fail anyway.”

Any of these sound familiar? Our minds try to keep us in homeostasis. “Don’t change things or Trouble will occur, or at minimum discomfort.” Oh brains how you love pleasure and to avoid uncomfortable times. Or they are trying to protect the part of you that is scared, sad and feels like it can’t take more emotional suffering.

Been there, still there sometimes-just what our brains are designed to do…well part of our brains. There is another part that is wise and cares in a different way. You ever hear that guidance within that says “You can start small.” “You can do hard things because we have done hard things.” “Where we are now is also painful and not working.” And if we are lucky a voice that says “you are good enough right now and deserve to live a long and full life because everyone deserves this and you are no exception. You are a unique soul in this world and we need you.” If you don’t have that message inside yet…

HEAR ME say that to you. Yes this will not be perfect. Perfection is an illusion and causes pain. Just allow yourself to open up and treat yourself like you would a beloved friend or favorite pet. Start small. Ask for help. Ask me. Ask friends, family, community. You are not alone. So up and out. Make a tiny plan and just move a little more.